Rules when dating a girl
Unfortunately there is no easy way to discern his true intentions without putting yourself on the line over and over again, and seeing how he responds.This can be humiliating, frustrating, even infuriating, and it can ultimately still end in failure.In general, you will need to carry the relationship up until the point that it is "official." When it has been established (or is otherwise clear) that the two of you are together, then you should start reducing your initiative and letting him take the reins.As I said, he will probably start to do this on his own anyway, so rather than forcing it, just be cognizant of the transition.If a girl doesn't approach or initiate contact with a shy man, nothing will happen.This is true, but handling this situation isn't as simple as you might think...You will probably get frustrated at his lack of response to your initiatives.
The second caveat is that even a shy man has pride.
A shy man may never become courageous enough to approach women in general, but he can eventually grow comfortable with a girlfriend or wife.
As the fear of the unknown dissipates with increased familiarity, a shy man's confidence in his interactions with you will rise.
The first thing to do when you find yourself attracted to a shy man is to question your feelings for him.
In other words, ask yourself "Am I attracted in spite of or because of his shyness? A very close friend of mine is extremely shy, and I know plenty of other guys that are shy. Shy guys, almost by definition, do not have the balls to initiate and pursue women.